Sober living with Jesus

Lots of time I hear people in the fellowship I belong to trying to put positive spins on every little thing that happens, reminding us to 'always be grateful" and parroting Dr. Paul O's famous paragraph on acceptance -that tells us that all things happen for a reason and nothing is by accident.  While most of the time this advice is well intended and should be heeded, I was also told once by a mentor that we should not go through life with rose-colored glasses on, trying to spin everything in a positive light.  To do so will surely bring some huge disappointment sooner or later and isn't a very realistic way to look at life. Some things suck.  That's just the way it is. When  had recently had a falling out with a family member, things were said and done that were untrue and hurtful.  This person continues to dwell on an unfounded resentment and it's clearly taking its toll on her.  It was a real betrayal on a deep level that hurt me more than anything in rece