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Being sensible...

My wife and I have a decent marriage (fantastic when I consider that we are both in a 12 step program) but do have our spats on occasion. One of the things I have become painfully aware of is that the severity and length of our discord is lengthened when one of us crosses the line and says the mean, hurtful things that can lurk there. Those things have only one purpose -- to be hurtful -- and are rarely accurate, anyway. They have no part in problem solving or conflict resolution and are also the most difficult to forget.

Recently we had one of those nights where I felt wronged and reacted with anger at her attitude. The rest of the night was 'on the cold side' and when I awoke this morning and commenced to read my daily dose of the Bible, today's verse from the book of Proverbs was no accident: Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut. -Proverbs 10:19 (NLT)

Now I shall take that advice. Have a great day!

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